When should I date again? - Ask Big Momma Questions

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Dear Big Momma,

My question is how long should I wait to start dating again after my ex left me? We had been together for seven years, when he decided to move back home (three states away), where I had lived for three years. He didn't want to stay, I didn't want to go. Our relationship wasn't very intimate the past four years but we are still friends. He's started seeing someone he's been 'friends' with the past six months or so. It's been two months since he left, and I'm wondering if it's ok that I should start dating. I don't want a rebound relationship.

Wondering in Omaha

Dear Wondering in Omaha:

So many times in a relationship the intimacy leaves and a friendship remains. I am glad to hear you are still friends. Your ex has moved on and so should you honey. My advice is to get on that party dress and start meeting new people. To be in a seven-year commitment shows you are one for a long-term relationship….Big Momma believes there is a soul mate for each and everyone one of us. I do recommend to take things slow in your new adventure. From the sounds of your previous relationship – you value how important friendship is and remember you have to work together to keep the intimacy in the relationship. Good Luck and remember Big Momma is always here when you need her!

Big Momma

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